Simply Charlotte Mason Homeschooling - Dealing with Our Past Homeschooling Mistakes

Imagine a scenario with me. You are teaching your child how to write. So, as Charlotte Mason detailed, you set before that child a model of the handwriting you want him to copy. Now let me ask you a question: What does that model look like? Imagine giving your child a printout of the mistakes […] Dealing with Our Past Homeschooling Mistakes originally appeared on Simply Charlotte Mason.

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Welcome to the simply Charlotte Mason podcast go with me. You are teaching your child how to write so as Charlotte Mason detailed you said before that child a model of the handwriting. You want him to copy that let me ask you a question. What does that model look like imagine giving your child a printout of the mistakes. He has made in the past and saying here look at this, but write it correctly. We would never do that. We put before the child a good model and we say make it look just like that. Don't we?

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But it occurred to me the other day that we as homeschool teachers often tend to focus on our past mistakes, even as we're trying to correct them for the future. It's almost as though we keep setting before us a picture of what we've done wrong and telling ourselves here. See this don't do it this way. Look at this, but do it the right way.

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When we focus on our past mistakes, we hinder ourselves from future success.

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Charlotte Mason New the principle that you move toward what you focused on what we set before us is what we'll have our attention. So why Focus our attention on mistakes the more we replay those movies in our heads the more they will consume our attention and our energy and leave little hope for the changes. We want to make in the future. We need to learn from the past absolutely, but then we need to Envision the future and strike out in that direction always keeping that new picture before us looking at the good model. Not at the one with the mistakes.

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Let me give you three examples that Encompass the three aspects of Education that Charlotte Mason talked about so much education is an atmosphere a discipline a life first. Let's look at how you might apply this to the atmosphere of your home. And remember the atmosphere of your home is made up of the ideas that rule your life as a person your own habits of thinking and behaving as it were let's say that in the past you've had a tendency to delay your bedtime you found yourself staying up until 2 a.m. Consistently and then when morning comes you either drag yourself out of bed and give your children less than your best or you sleep in and then you have to face the fact that your children are waiting on you or they've gotten busy with other things and you feel like you're playing catch-up all day long.

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You've come to the conclusion that something needs to change will go ahead and take one good long. Look at that old tendency and extract the lessons it has for you. What have you learned from that action? Perhaps you've learned that you can't be at your best for your children when you get only 4 hours of sleep. So how many hours do you need to be at your best?

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You might think about what it is. You actually do during those hours when you stay up at night. What are you trying to get done and how might you be able to do those things during the day instead, you arrange your schedule to get them done before nighttime. Once you extract the lessons that you can learn and by the way beating yourself up and saying I'm a bad mommy. That's not one of the lessons. You should learn to trust me on that.

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But once you have extract the lessons, you can learn.

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Shut that door don't keep looking back at it determine what you're going to do moving forward and set that decision before you look at that good the more you think about the past the model that you don't desire to copy the more you're going to move toward it. You move toward what you focus on you can't make much progress toward a different future if you keep turning around to look at the past.

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It's the same thing with your child habit. And that's the second area where we want to think about an example your child's growth in the discipline of good habits. Take a look at the past determine which habit you need to work on next extract the lessons from that passed then stop looking at the past and make plans for the future. What do you want this new habit to look like picture it in detail consider how you can communicate those expectations to your child. Think about what natural consequences could be used as needed to help your child learn and grow in that habit.

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For example, maybe one child has been dawdling over his individual work and that has been dragging out your whole day of school work will take a good look at what has been causing that dawdling and see what you can extract from that situation is it that he doesn't understand the lesson if so consider whether you need to set it aside for a while until he's developmentally ready, or maybe you need to explain that concept a different way or perhaps use a different resource.

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If on the other hand, he understands the lesson but he is allowing himself to be distracted think about some natural consequences. You might use perhaps you could determine how long that lesson should be and set a timer now, you don't even have to leave the timer where he can see it. You can set it for yourself. So that 10 minutes before the end of that lesson time you go to him and in a calm matter of fact voice Spotlight his responsibilities, you might say something like in 10 minutes. I will start our picture study. Do you want to finish this lesson now or this afternoon and then let him make the choice and experience the consequences if he had other plans for this afternoon. Those will have to be set aside until he finishes the lesson he chose to postpone.

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But during this whole process keep before you the new plan the good model remind yourself of what you want your school day to look like and the strategies you've decided to use to help you achieve that momentum.

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Also keep before you a picture of what you're hoping to achieve in that child. The more you look at him as a dawdling individual the more you will expect that out of him to try to set before you a picture of what he could become as he learns and grows in the habit of focusing his attention and keeping it where it should be for longer periods of time.

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End of 3rd example education is a life which relates to the living ideas presented in our school studies. Let's say you had a less-than-stellar exam week at the end of the term as you look back you've realized that you weren't helping your child cement those ideas in his mind through consistent narration. You were skipping narration or pre-reading reviews. So extract the lessons from that experience perhaps, it's simply that you need to require narration.

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After you come to that conclusion and identified that this is the change that will help you improve then take a few moments to math out what that Improvement will look like try to think through all the details and get that picture crystal clear in your imagination. What does the good model look like? How often are you going to ask for narrations? How long of a passage are you going to read before asking for the narration? How will you set up that passage? So your student has a chance to grasp the context before you start in. Will you have a timer going to help you? Keep that lesson at an appropriate length? Just picture that whole narration lesson in your mind now be warned the next time you read that history book your mind will probably start to replay the movie from your past. It will try to remind you of all those times that you didn't require an aeration.

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Be ready for that and when that movie starts to play Push the off button and declare to yourself what you learned from that experience and what you are moving toward now as a result push play on the new movie that you envisioned set before your mind's eye the way that you want this narration. Listen to look focus on the good model.

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The more you keep your attention on what you do want the more you will move in that direction.

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There are any number of situations in which we can apply this idea, but it all boils down to this.

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Don't focus on the mistakes. You've made take a good look at them extract the lessons and learn from them. Then set them behind you and focus your attention instead on the good model of what you want that situation to look like moving forward. Keep that good model before your mind's eye and you'll have a much better chance of making your life look like it.

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