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Good morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the before breakfast podcast. Today's tip is to set some relationship goals. We're all familiar with the idea of career goals, like getting a promotion and personal goals, like running a marathon does make sense to relationship goals aren't quite so intuitive. But using a goal setting mindset in relationships can actually be transformative.

From time to time I see that someone will write to announce that people spend most of their time at work or even people spend most of their waking hours at work. Neither are for most people true. There are 160 hours in a week. So spending 40 hours at work is nowhere near most of the time even if you subtract 56 hours per week for sleep. That's 8 hours per night for 7 days at least 72 hours for other things people with regular full-time jobs spend almost twice as many waking hours not working as they do working to qualify as most of your waking hours. You have to work more than 56 hours a week and the vast majority of people do not

Dad said we're can certainly feel like it takes the bulk of our time. And so I've pondered why that might be it's not even that work always feels like drudgery which could be an obvious explanation even people who really love their jobs generally feel like those jobs. Take the bulk of their time.

I think the explanation is that we give work time structure we set goals and we work toward them because the time is planned and given a purpose. It seems to expand.

Of course, the rest of life isn't exactly like work at all nor should it be but by adding a bit more structure to our personal lives we can make our personal lives feel more memorable and bigger. This is particularly true for time spent with other people which tends to be the time. We wish would feel bigger and more expensive. And so rather than just try to spend more quality time with your partner. You might decide to always ask about your partner's day as soon as you see him or her after work and not have your phone with you during this time instead of just trying to read more with your kids. You might Embark upon a whole series or read through the Caldecott award-winning books from the past 40 years.

Rather than just hoping to take advantage of any current work flexibility to spend more time with family. You might schedule a daily recess at 3 p.m. While you're working from home and play with the kids for 30 minutes then.

This relationship goals can take whatever shape you want to Kid free chats per week with your partner calling your grandmother every other day. You can combine them with personal goals, like doing a fast run with your teenager on Sunday afternoons or taking a cooking class with your sister. But the point is to be aiming towards something specific measurable achievable time-bound and so forth all those things we learn to do with work goals.

Again, there's no need to go overboard here some aspects of relationship building simply can't be Quantified and there's much to be said for just spending a lot of relax time together. But if you're looking for ways to feel connected with the people you love or feel like your personal life is full and Rich and as time-consuming as work in a good way. This is one way to try that some relationship goals and you just might achieve them and since the process itself will be good to it's a win all the way around.

In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening. And here's to making the most of our time.

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