Before Breakfast - Remember names

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All of us in America have a duty to vote.

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Maybe the Cornerstone of our democracy, but the reality of how the Body Works in America and who gets to do it is not as fair or clear-cut as we like to tell ourselves. I'm Katie Couric and this is turn out a podcast exploring America's voting record with the help of experts activist and politicians. We're going to talk about the ways voters have been kept out of the system and how to ensure that everyone can participate in our democracy. Turn out launches October 1st find it on the iHeartRadio app Apple podcast or wherever you listen to your favorite shows.

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Welcome to before breakfast a production of iHeartRadio.

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Good morning. This is Laura.

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Welcome to the before breakfast podcast. Today's tip is about how to remember names everyone loves to hear his or her own name and some people may be more naturally oriented toward remembering names than others are but everybody can get better at it and getting better at it is a good thing to do today is tip like some others this week comes from Aaron Democrat. He's new book the little book of life skills. This book features interviews with dozens of experts on how to improve daily life her suggestions for remembering names comes from Jim Kwik who runs quick learning a company that helps with memory training.

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His first suggestion is to believe that you can remember names telling yourself. Oh, I'm not good at names this really just about letting yourself off the hook. You've learned all kinds of other skills that are necessary for your job or your daily life learning names is really about believing that other people are important.

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Second practice remembering the names of people you meet as often as you can a good way to do. This is to repeat the person's name as soon as the person introduces themselves. Hi. I'm Ted is followed by hello Ted. Not just hello, if it seems authentic to the conversation, you might ask about the name the spelling or where it came from or by their parents chose it then come up with a visual that helps you remember the name as ready right side in quick. If someone is named Mary you could picture her carrying two little lamb Q in the nursery rhyme and hopefully her name and your next encounter.

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And then finally when you end the conversation use the person's name again, it was great talking to you Lisa. This gives you two opportunities to hear yourself. Say the name, which will hopefully help cemented into your brain.

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Just remind yourself why this matters and stop with the self-defeating talk? I'm not good at remembering names can become I'm not good at remembering names yet. You can learn we all remember things when we want to I never use the wrong form of there and they're in my writing. So clearly I'm able to remember details names are very important details. They are part of being welcoming and gracious.

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I've seen evidence of this at of all places. My kids karate studio instructors seem to have a policy that as soon as any child walks in the door, even for a first lesson all the teachers will know and remember the child's name and so they do on little Bobby's first day in class. The teacher will be saying Bobby Joe Chris ever the right corner and while I'm willing to believe that some people have better day memories than others. I don't think it's the primary thing people are hired for at a karate studio. That's their karate expertise, but it's just a work culture assumption that knowing everyone's name is as important as knowing a particular form and so people perform to that expectation.

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The rest of us can to so today if you are introduced to something make a point of remembering his or her name and using it multiple times in the conversation. Try introducing that person to someone else and using the name again, maybe make a note to yourself somewhere writing down. I met Henry today and he told me this over time you will become the sort of person who remembers names and as Dale Carnegie author of How to Win Friends and Influence People wants wrote to all of us. Our own names are the sweetest in any language.

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This matters we know it does so we can get it, right.

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In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening. And here's to making the most of our time.

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Regardless of how you vote by urge each of you to vote.

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All of us in America have a duty to vote after all. It's the Cornerstone of our democracy at The Ballot Box. Everyone has to say but the reality of how voting Works in America and who gets to do it is not as fair or clear-cut as we like to tell ourselves long lines and confusion at polling places other members of the turtle Mountain tribe or turned away from the polls in backlog of undelivered mail is piling up in post offices around the country Katie Couric, and this is turn out a podcast exploring America's voting record as long as there's been a right to vote there have been ways to suppress it. So we're going to talk about it talk about the ways voters have been kept out of the system and how to ensure that everyone can participate in our democracy. Turn out launches October 1st. Find it on the iHeart.

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