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Hi, I'm Bethany van delft host of a new podcast the 10 News 10 minutes of news and fun for the new generation of curious thinkers. We're here to help you make sense of it all from Kearney events to science art and pop culture will talk to experts and special guests and hear from young people just like you listen to the 10:00 news on the iHeartRadio app Apple podcast or wherever you get your podcast new episodes every Tuesday and Thursday.

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Good morning. This is Laura.

Welcome to the before breakfast podcast today is to make your social connections automatic when you always get together with certain people at a certain time. No one has to think about it. And that means you will get together more often than not.

I'm taking today's tip from Shasta Nelson. Who is the author of the new book called The Business of friendship. This book is about making friends at work, which is definitely important but shots of thanks a lot about all kinds of friendships. And when I interviewed her recently, she mentioned that she got together with a few girlfriends every week virtually at the exact same time. They simply chose a time and stuck with it. No, not everyone could make it every week. I assumed but because no one had to plan these get-togethers each time. They happen frequently and that was a lot of fun.

I love this idea. We would all like to spend more time with friends and these days many people are feeling a bit lonely. But when we're busy with work and family, it can be hard to reach out to a handful of people and see if they'd like to dial into a zoom call. We're talking a dozen back and forth emails if not more what a lot of bother but when you always get together Sunday at 7 p.m. For an hour people start to build their lives around that intention. They know that it's fine to go out for an early dinner on Sunday, but best dad back in time for that Zoom call they manage their energy to not feel totally wiped out by Sunday at 7 p.m. And because the call happens without a lot of effort people can start looking forward to it putting their energy into the call rather than women.

That's especially important if you're trying to get a group of people together. So if that sounds like something you would like to do think about which people you'd like to have a small group get together with frequently reach out and see if you can come up with a time that will work more often than not Sunday evening is in fact often good people are back from their weekend Adventures by then, but there could be other times that were maybe Friday early morning. Maybe Monday night after the kids go to bed. What a way to start the week figure out a time and then set it up to be recurring if you're not sure how it will go. Well just commit to the first four sessions or so. My guess is that it will be enough on that. You'll want to keep going but if not no harm done.

In life making things automatic means we spend more time on them. This is a problem when it comes to work meetings offices will meet every Tuesday morning at 10 a.m. For eternity because well, that's when they always have their staff meeting. It doesn't matter if there's nothing to discuss the meeting doesn't have to overcome any hurdles to happen. And so it keeps happening again. And again by the fault. This is kind of a waste of time at work, but you know, what, we spend a lot of time at work we spend far less time with friends. So why not put the same default principal to work and your social life now shots does recurring get together with virtual and I think this is smart to the upside of a virtual recurring get together is that there are far fewer things that can go wrong to prevent people from coming no babysitter. No problem snow not an issue case of the sniffles. Nobody's worried about sure.

Germs over Zoom. You can also involve people from farther away, which is great. If you're living far from your college roommates or the people who are in your wedding or whoever you'd like to spend time with obviously getting people together in person is awesome. And I do heartily recommend that when it's safe to do so but is the past few months have shown virtual get the others are okay to not perfect of course, but maybe 75% is good. And if they're more likely to happen, well that 25% haircut is probably okay make connection automatic and it happens. There's a lot to celebrate about that.

In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening. And here's to making the most of our time.

Hey everybody. I'd love to hear from you. You can send me your tips your questions or anything else. Just connect with me on Twitter Facebook and Instagram at before breakfast pod. That's be the number for then breakfast pod. You can also shoot me an email at before breakfast podcast at that before breakfast is spelled out with all the letters. Thanks so much. I look forward to staying in touch.

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